Beat your fears

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THE TERRIBLE ORDEAL OF LIVING WITH YOUR FEARS
I have seen so many people, many of them young and just starting out in their life, gripped by a a terrible fear of things in their life. Many just hide this part of themselves away because they are afraid of being ridiculed and laughed at. The world we live in is a cruel place - the weak and down-trodden are made fun of and ostracised. I have news for you if you fall into such a category.

YOU CAN BREAK THE BONDAGE OF FEAR - STARTING TODAY
Do you know you can break this bondage of fear and banish it from your life. It is actually quite easy even though many who are in the syndromme of fear think that they can never ever break it so they just live with it and try to ignore it by putting it aside. This is living dangerously because you never know when the fear might come again and bring its consequences with it. Yo9u don;t have to wait for a next encounter. you can start dealing with it by making a start. If you are interested, write to me at onghocksiew@gmail.com and I wilp personally coach you out of your fears.

FEAR SEEMS SO INNOCENTLY UNTHREATENING WHEN IT IS FAR AWAY
Funny how when we talk about fears, we can laugh at its silliness and its impact when it is not happening. It seems so funny when we look at it from afar. But then when it comes a "visiting" usually during situations that arise, we can be totally paralysed or debilitated and then the results can be disastrous.

YOU MUST FIRST UNDERSTAND THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF FEARS
There are different types of fears and I will list some of the more common ones out:

• Fear of Heights
• Fear of water
• Fear of the dark
• Fear of Insects and creepy crawlies
• Fear of sickness
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of the unknown
• Fear of death

Let me talk of the first 4 areas in this blog. Fear of heights is very common and many people are terrified by high places. Fear often comes through remonstration or "sugggestions" made. What happens when kids climb high? It is always a threatening shout that says, "If you fall you will break your bones and you may die." With enough times of such negative inputs, the idea of danger becomes overwhelming. It is the same for the fear of water. Overanxious parents will always exaggerate greatly the danger of drowning and this becomes horrendously magnified in th mind of a child who gets reminded of it all the time.

It is also true of the fear of dark and "creepy crawlies". when a cockroach (quite harmless really) runs across the room, there is terrified reactions all round. Such reactions is easily conveyed and passed on. A constant barrage of such fearful reactions makes the culprit (the small cockroach as well as all other small insects later) a feared object. Over the years, such reactions actually cements itself into the psyche of those who are not strong enough. Fear of the dark has a similar origin. The conjecture of ghosts in dark places is the most convenient way for grown-ups to dissuade young children from venturing into such places. Asian families are big culprits in this area. Left undealt with, the sentiments grow even when there are no further encounters with the dark. In the growing years, the thrill of watching "ghost" movies and horrow shows adds huge fear elements to what is already bad.


THEN YOU MUST KNOW THEIR CAUSE AND HOW THEY CAME ABOUT
It is knowing the cause of your fears that is the first step for you to overcome it. If it was what your parents and elders taught you or implanted in you, you must understand why they did it. once you know the reasons, you will be able to take some steps to banish such fears. List down each fear you have and then try and trace its causes and how it came about. Take this first step and you will be surprised at how many of your fears are actually created by people anbd circumstances. Sometimes it could an unpleasant encounter or experience but it doesn't matter. Get to know the cause first. Try it and look out for my other articles to follw on fear.

ONE AREA WHERE IT CAN BE SO READILY HANDLED
Let me show you one area where it can be so readily handled. We have a lodge up in Berjaya Hills called Grace Hill Orchard Lodge. Then we have a natural swimming pool with an 8 feet platform. This is the place where we teach people to overcome their fear of water and heights together. Someone who can't swim can in a few short hours not only swim but do certain fantastic feats like doing a back somersault or a front somersault.

Don;t believe me? Look at the accompanying videos and see what happened. two yound girls who couldn't swim well can within a short while do a front and back somersault into the pool from 8 feet high. Amazing, ain't it! you can do the same too. Don't believe it?? Come and visit me and you will see for yourself.